Feeling better about yourself, having better relationships and
better outcomes in life means starting on the inside, with your
emotional life. Find out how you're doing in your inner life with the
pop quiz below.
Fill in each blank below with a number between 1
(the lowest score) and 10 (the highest score). Remember that this is not
about being perfect or having to measure up, or failing to achieve or
competing with others.
Your total score in each stage is merely and indicator of where you stand in terms of needing to carry out the growth tasks in that stage. Everyone needs to carry out these tasks, and everyone does better with them at some times than at others.
Use this information to take care of yourself - to help you create secure relationships,and smooth,satisfying life passages.
One: The Ground of My Existence
I am able to:
_____Create the bonds with others that sustain me;
_____Discern and decide for myself when to trust and when not to trust;
_____Know what I feel--scared, sad, mad, glad;
_____Be aware of when I am tired or hungry and take care of myself accordingly.
My area one score is ________out of a total possible score of 40.
Two: My World of Stimulation and Action
_____I am able to:
_____Find ways to satisfy my curiosity in healthy ways;
_____Provide for enough variety in my life to keep myself refreshed;
_____Balance sufficient activity with times of adequate rest;
_____Maintain my sustaining connections with others while exploring.
My area two score is ________out of a total possible score of 50.
Three: Thinking and Independence
I am able to:
_____Know where I stop and someone else begins;
_____Create and maintain healthy boundaries;
_____Recognize others' boundaries and respect them whether or not I like or agree with them;
_____Think about myself, my own life, my own problems and think to find solutions;
_____Be responsible for my commitments, including my word with other people.
My area three score is ________out of a total possible score of 50.
Four: Forging My Identity
I am able to:
_____Establish who I am in a group of others without overpowering, or alienating others or giving up myself;
_____Explore my ability to affect others in positive ways;
_____Update my sense of self and who I am rather than being rigid, fixated;
_____Move from periods of uncertainty about myself and my role in the social world to be at peace with who I am;
_____Accept and deal with the consequences of my own behavior;
_____Allow other adults to accept and learn from the consequences of their own behavior - or not learn, as they choose.
My area four score is ________out of a total possible score of 60.
Five: My Skills and Learning Process
I am able to:
_____Periodically update my skills;
_____Review what I value as I grow older, and reset my priorities;
_____Exhibit tolerance for others' ways of doing things;
_____Contribute to society in positive ways;
_____Disagree with others without blaming or criticizing them;
_____Recognize and respectfully decline invitations for others to use me.
My area five score is ________out of a total possible score of 60.
Six: Integrating and Sexuality
I am able to:
_____Adjust to my changing sexual maturity as I grow through early, middle and older adulthood;
_____Accept increasing responsibility for the contents of my life and make the changes I deem necessary to carry them out;
_____Express my creativity in ways that are healthy for me and for society;
_____Find ways to stand up to social injustice that do not harm me or others;
_____Recognize that the world does not owe me a living, and stand on my own two feet; support myself;
_____Accept support from others and support others in mutually beneficial exchanges;
_____Take responsibility for my own health and well-being and make the life adjustments that will maintain them;
_____Acknowledge that my own reservoir of personal pain exists and take effective steps to heal it.
My area six score is ________out of a total possible score of 80.
My overall score (adding all my scores together) is ________
out of a total possible score of 340.
What your scores mean: If your overall score is lower than you'd like, don't panic. Instead, find the area in which your score was lowest, and give that your attention.
The six areas above represent the six stages we grow through in childhood and then continue to grow and mature in as adults. They are the same for everyone. That means understanding/improving your own score in any area will increase your compassion and understanding for that part of others and therefore improve your relationships too!
Fill in each blank below with a number between 1
(the lowest score) and 10 (the highest score). Remember that this is not
about being perfect or having to measure up, or failing to achieve or
competing with others.Your total score in each stage is merely and indicator of where you stand in terms of needing to carry out the growth tasks in that stage. Everyone needs to carry out these tasks, and everyone does better with them at some times than at others.
Use this information to take care of yourself - to help you create secure relationships,and smooth,satisfying life passages.
One: The Ground of My Existence
I am able to:
_____Create the bonds with others that sustain me;
_____Discern and decide for myself when to trust and when not to trust;
_____Know what I feel--scared, sad, mad, glad;
_____Be aware of when I am tired or hungry and take care of myself accordingly.
My area one score is ________out of a total possible score of 40.
Two: My World of Stimulation and Action
_____I am able to:
_____Find ways to satisfy my curiosity in healthy ways;
_____Provide for enough variety in my life to keep myself refreshed;
_____Balance sufficient activity with times of adequate rest;
_____Maintain my sustaining connections with others while exploring.
My area two score is ________out of a total possible score of 50.
Three: Thinking and Independence
I am able to:
_____Know where I stop and someone else begins;
_____Create and maintain healthy boundaries;
_____Recognize others' boundaries and respect them whether or not I like or agree with them;
_____Think about myself, my own life, my own problems and think to find solutions;
_____Be responsible for my commitments, including my word with other people.
My area three score is ________out of a total possible score of 50.
Four: Forging My Identity
I am able to:
_____Establish who I am in a group of others without overpowering, or alienating others or giving up myself;
_____Explore my ability to affect others in positive ways;
_____Update my sense of self and who I am rather than being rigid, fixated;
_____Move from periods of uncertainty about myself and my role in the social world to be at peace with who I am;
_____Accept and deal with the consequences of my own behavior;
_____Allow other adults to accept and learn from the consequences of their own behavior - or not learn, as they choose.
My area four score is ________out of a total possible score of 60.
Five: My Skills and Learning Process
I am able to:
_____Periodically update my skills;
_____Review what I value as I grow older, and reset my priorities;
_____Exhibit tolerance for others' ways of doing things;
_____Contribute to society in positive ways;
_____Disagree with others without blaming or criticizing them;
_____Recognize and respectfully decline invitations for others to use me.
My area five score is ________out of a total possible score of 60.
Six: Integrating and Sexuality
I am able to:
_____Adjust to my changing sexual maturity as I grow through early, middle and older adulthood;
_____Accept increasing responsibility for the contents of my life and make the changes I deem necessary to carry them out;
_____Express my creativity in ways that are healthy for me and for society;
_____Find ways to stand up to social injustice that do not harm me or others;
_____Recognize that the world does not owe me a living, and stand on my own two feet; support myself;
_____Accept support from others and support others in mutually beneficial exchanges;
_____Take responsibility for my own health and well-being and make the life adjustments that will maintain them;
_____Acknowledge that my own reservoir of personal pain exists and take effective steps to heal it.
My area six score is ________out of a total possible score of 80.
My overall score (adding all my scores together) is ________
out of a total possible score of 340.
What your scores mean: If your overall score is lower than you'd like, don't panic. Instead, find the area in which your score was lowest, and give that your attention.
The six areas above represent the six stages we grow through in childhood and then continue to grow and mature in as adults. They are the same for everyone. That means understanding/improving your own score in any area will increase your compassion and understanding for that part of others and therefore improve your relationships too!
To find out what to do to improve each of these scores, and
receive a special 25% discount, register for the Emotional Development
101, ten, once-a-week online classes you take from wherever you are. You
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You'll learn what to do in each of these six core areas of your emotional life, and see the results in your outer life.
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